Moving On
Moving on means continually growing and letting go of the past. In order to move on, one must find a replacement for the old and move into the new. Moving on means not burying the past, but regarding it as a sand in time and then moving into the future. Moving on means growth. It means that today I am one step closer to being better than I was yesterday. It means that I have a responsibility to give back and daily renew to make life better for myself and others. Moving on means that I cannot be tied to old habits, patterns, and beliefs that have prevented me from being the best I can be. It means that with gain there is pain and that I have to confront and tackle the challenges ahead.
I wrote a dissertation. It was a test of endurance. It was an accomplishment. It is mine. I birthed it and I nurtured it and I am proud of it. It was tough at times but instills in me a deep sense of pride. Yet, I cannot let my accomplishment be my foundation for success. For I must move on. Set new goals. Achieve new milestones. Look for new opportunity to grow. And I must allow those I lead to have the same opportunity.
People Who Hold Others Back
I can become instantly frustrated when I encounter someone who tries to hold me back from growth. I try to be judicial in my requests to grow and not approach anything from a sense of entitlement. I also try to never be a person who holds others back. I supervise people. They have needs. If my area of responsibility is to grow, it will only happen if I let others grow. When I find myself trying to hold back another and be controlling, I step back and reflect. Because usually when I do this it is because I am feeling threatened or insecure myself and am trying to control. Or I am jealous of that person. Then I know it is time for me to step back and take a break. I also cognitively know that this mindset will inhibit growth and productivity, yet that little girl in me is stomping her foot. This is where emotional intelligence is necessary to overcome the tendency to control and stymy others and let go. For deep inside I know there is plenty for everyone and we reap what we sow. If we hold others back, someone will hold us back. It is karma at its best. It is just sometimes hard to get there.
So moving on and holding back are two concepts that closely intermingle. And what is the one who is holding me back is myself? Oh, that can be even worse for then I become my own worst enemy. Then I have to compete with myself and feel threatened by myself and then overcome myself. That is willpower. That is self-discipline. That is maturity. That is my challenge.
So, in taking care of self day two, the challenge is not to hold myself back but to move on and be the best I can be. Encourage myself. Empower myself, and make a difference.
